At a certain point in life people get to exchange vows. For some it is out of pressure from other sources. It is not uncommon to hear of some that did not want to get married. They do it because they are expected to do so and makes them safe. After all, they assume that is what other people want for them. It becomes a happy wedding buy a sad marriage. And this is considered by most okay. Below is what kids need to be told about divorce.
It is not always that you meet someone who has potential. Many people don’t reach their potential. This is because of inability or their choices. Potential is limiting. You only look at what is presented to you at that time. This is what the rest of the world sees. This is a mistake that most people make with their ex boyfriends at least once. You find that they were full of potential, everything that you could ever want. You loved how they talked, walked but after getting to know them well, it just turns out to be another story.
Most people love getting married.
However, marriage can turn out to be tough even if it is healthy and still functional. The both of you might be doing everything right but you expect to meet rough patches. It is important to let your kids know that divorce doesn’t necessarily mean that any of you is doing something wrong. There are times when abuse happens. It could be because of miscommunication. Also, there could be irreconcilable differences. Divorce has to be based on legitimate grounds. There comes a time when parents just have to stop beating themselves up and just do what they want to do. Regret is not necessary because at one point this person was your source of joy.
Divorce is devastating. However, being trapped in a marriage that is not working can turn out to be the most awful feeling. There are actually some who end up salvaging their marriages by going for couple counseling. However, divorce can be the only choice left.
Couples are allowed to change their minds and do what is best for them. Every person is free to make their choices to make despite the world being so judgemental. Kids need to know that their parents are not failures in case things don’t work out. Divorce is a painful process. However, it can be more frustrating to be in a marriage that you are not happy. You will always be thinking about how much you are missing out on life and how to be free. This is what hurts most.